and now i remember. the temptation of old habits. the pit of bad practices. the fallibility of humans. the limitations of second chances.
do people deserve second chances? can you forgive someone for something they did? does it matter who it is? are second chances handed out on the basis of affection? is it better to offer them regardless? better to grant perfect strangers the benefit of the doubt? isn't it likely that a wrong path taken once is easier to take the second time?
i can vouch for that from personal experience, after all. giving second chances is hard. looking past past mistakes is hard. forgetting the pain caused before is hard. are there degrees? do we have to make rules for every type of transgression? is it one rule for lying and another for cheating? one rule for your best friend and another for a chance aquaintance? do you go harder or easier on the ones you love? do you forgive more and relax less? do you take every new step as one independent? do you become more wary? is probation more than just an uncomfortable state to be in? *sigh*
and another disturbing morning thought: the over-staying of welcomes. no matter how confident one is of the pleasantness of one's company, there is always a niggling feeling that someone is too polite to tell you to get out of their face, and nothing annoys more than someone who insists on hanging around where they're not wanted.
more personal experience.
makes one wonder. learning in principle means nothing without the experience to back it up. we've forgotten that, i think. we need to be reminded.
do people deserve second chances? can you forgive someone for something they did? does it matter who it is? are second chances handed out on the basis of affection? is it better to offer them regardless? better to grant perfect strangers the benefit of the doubt? isn't it likely that a wrong path taken once is easier to take the second time?
i can vouch for that from personal experience, after all. giving second chances is hard. looking past past mistakes is hard. forgetting the pain caused before is hard. are there degrees? do we have to make rules for every type of transgression? is it one rule for lying and another for cheating? one rule for your best friend and another for a chance aquaintance? do you go harder or easier on the ones you love? do you forgive more and relax less? do you take every new step as one independent? do you become more wary? is probation more than just an uncomfortable state to be in? *sigh*
and another disturbing morning thought: the over-staying of welcomes. no matter how confident one is of the pleasantness of one's company, there is always a niggling feeling that someone is too polite to tell you to get out of their face, and nothing annoys more than someone who insists on hanging around where they're not wanted.
more personal experience.
makes one wonder. learning in principle means nothing without the experience to back it up. we've forgotten that, i think. we need to be reminded.
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